18 hours ago
“Self-care is never a selfish act - it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others. Anytime we can listen to true self and give the care it requires, we do it not only for ourselves, but for the many others whose lives we touch.”
I have seen a lot of post this week on self care. Man is this such an important thing to have in your life whether your a mom, dad, working or stay at home parent or not a parent at all. Everyone need a little break now and then. I saw this posted and thought it was very relevant and well said.
Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression.... The elephant in the room nobody talks about.
I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become. - No one talks about the isolation.
- No one talks about the loss of identity, loneliness, losing your sense of self.
- No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.
- No one understands why you're tired and irritable.
- No one understands why you need a mental break.
- No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids. - No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you.
- No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job". Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief... It’s OK to take a break!