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“🧐So, how was your retreat last month? Did the women get along? Were there any disagreements? Any fights?”
👆🏻These are ACTUAL questions I received from someone asking me about the retreat I hosted in Florida last month, and you know what? I have A LOT to say about it. .
I am really sick and tired of society - as a whole - having (and setting) the expectation that when women get together, it’s all cattiness and gossiping and judging and trying to outdo each other.
We have been trained to fear other women who are “prettier” or “skinnier” or “more outgoing” or “more successful” than we are, like we are all going up against each other for some sort of whacked out competition. .
NEWSFLASH: THERE IS NO COMPETITION. IT’S👏ALL👏MADE👏UP.
And here’s the thing: women INNATELY crave connection with other women - it’s literally in our DNA, it’s in our blood - but we’ve been so trained, conditioned and programmed to treat our sisters as enemies that we barely even know how to connect with each other anymore. .
We need to be supporting and uplifting and empowering each other instead of judging and tearing each other down in order to make ourselves feel better in the moment. .
That is wounded thinking.
Here’s the real truth, and it might sting: when we judge someone else, it actually has nothing to do with the other person - and has 1,000,000% to do with how we feel about ourselves. When we notice ourselves judging someone else, it’s an opportunity for us to whip out a mirror and take a good hard look at what’s behind the judgement. .
The other truth is that society is afraid of women believing in themselves and then going out and connecting with other women in truth and love and compassion, because a group of empowered women who believe in themselves out there empowering other women to believe in themselves so that WE ALL can live our fullest lives is FREAKING POWERFUL and that scares the hell out of a lot of people. .
For a little bit of backstory, I had a really hard time being friends with other women for most of my life. .
I used to literally be AFRAID of other women.
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